I know it is cliche to say it, but life is too short, so JUST-BE-YOURSELF!
Be the person you are and let the world see you are confident and accepting of that person! I have a constant internal struggle with always trying to be the perfect person rather than just being me. I want to be the perfect friend to everybody. I want to be funny. I want to be happy all the time. I want to help everyone. I never want to be seen as weird. I want to be perfect.
I have finally realised, it’s not possible to be perfect. It’s only possible to be me and keep trying to be the best version of me.
Over the years (not that have been many! Im only 23), I have found that remembering 2 key things helps me, to keep being me. If I’m ever not feeling my best I think of these and most of the time they help me to get back to my most authentic self.
Firstly, the people around you, should accept you for you.
I used to constantly want everyone to like me and to be friends with everyone. But its not possible. There are always going to be people that you disagree with, misunderstand or just generally dislike. In the end, we are all unique. You and another may be completely drawn to each other like magnets. You might want to punch others in the face (not that physical violence is ever a good idea!). Sometimes, personalities just don’t mesh, and that’s okay! My philosophy is that, the people around you should bring out the best in you! If someone doesn’t like or accept part of your personality, maybe they shouldn’t be part of your life? I try and surround myself with people who love me for me. People who accept that maybe I am a little weird. Or maybe we just have weirdness in common? People who accept the multitude of ridiculous faces i snapchat, that I might bring my dog with me to a catchup lunch, or wear my activewear even when i’m not being “active”. The people I call my friends are the people that accept me for me and I have made a conscious effort for it to be that way.
Secondly, my opinion of myself is the one I have to live with.
The way I view me, is what I have to accept and ultimately, what I have to love. Whether that is in the decisions I make, the way I behave, what I look like, how I treat others, it all impacts my own opinion of myself. I am a big believer in being the best version of yourself. You have to first, know what that is though! I find that when I look good, I feel good. When I feel good, I am a nicer person to everyone around me, including myself. If I’m feeling my best then I’m one step closer to being a better version of me. I find when I’m feeling my best, helping others comes with ease. I smile more (which is always helpful when you have permanent Resting Bitch Face), I laugh more and I have a better time with everything. I am generally a more positive person. When I am positive, I am more likely to see the good in people and I am definitely a big complimenter! Actually, I’m super into complimenting people! I think spreading the love through compliments is awesome! Such a tiny comment can make the biggest difference in someone’s day!
With all that rambling, I think you can tell what I’m trying to say!
If you are weird – be weird. If you are quiet – be quiet. If you are loud – be loud.
Lots of love,
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